CONVERSATIONS WITH YOUR KIDS ABOUT LIFE AND GOD

Talking to your kids can be a challenge, with one word answers like fine, ok etc etc.

Over time you will become less and less of the main influence in your child’s life and so you want to firstly push past the mere fine or ok into the details and then push past the general conversation about life into conversation about God.

But how do you do so with patience and love? 

TIPS

Here are a few hints that seem to be effective:

1. Show respect.

How would you feel if you were involved in something, and somebody suddenly demanded to have an in-depth conversation about something entirely different. Learning to choose the right moments to talk shows respect to your kids. Let them finish that game or drawing. Then make your move.

2. Establish a regular time and place.

Maybe it’s dinner time, but whatever time or place you choose make it regular and the same so your kids know what to expect. And get rid of all distractions, television, ipads, phones, etc etc. Don't be satisfied with asking, "How was your day?" Go the extra step to open lines of communication.

3. Get creative.

How was your day? Is a fine question; it's just bland. Try to get creative. Spice up the questions a little bit:

• Tell me something unusual that happened today.

• What was the most amazing thing that happened at school today?

• Complete this sentence: My day would have been more exciting if...

This last one is fun but may lead down the road of discussing other things like school, friends, and other stuff.

You could also have your kids write their own questions. Place their questions in a bowl and have each person draw a question to answer. For more fun, play the "Telephone Game." Have a child privately share something about his or her day and then pass it on. When it gets back to that child, see how much the original "conversation" has changed.

4. Be specific.

Instead of the general question, ask about specific relationships. Ask about tests. Ask about what you talked about the previous night. Show your kids that you not only care, but also that you remember. To do that, you have to listen, and then discuss what's been talked about before.

5. Have fun.

Sometimes the day really was just fine. That's fine — even if you don't want it to be. It's during those fine times that you can branch out and talk about upcoming family events, holidays, and other stuff.

In the end, the conversation is about reminding your children that their first outlet can and should be their parents as our first outlet is our Father, who always listens and cares.

TALKING ABOUT GOD

Now onto talking about God...


It’s awesome to talk to your kids, to know what they’re thinking, to find out who they are. And all the non-intimidating questions are a great way to get a little glimpse inside their hearts from day to day, which is invaluable. However along with these very important questions there’s an even more important question we can be asking. A more valuable family discussion that could be taking place every day.

Psalm 145:4 says, “One generation shall praise Your works to another, and shall declare Your mighty acts.”


You also need to be talking to your kids about the ways you and they see God at work in the world around you and in your daily lives. And you should ask them where they’ve recognized God’s presence and power.

Psalm 33:5 states,“The earth is full of the loving, kindness of the Lord.”

Even in the midst of horrific world events, significant personal trial and miserable days in our own homes, God is at work! God’s plans have not been thwarted. God’s character remains consistent. God is doing good things in, through and for His people ALL the time.: So ...Count on it ; Anticipate it and Look for it. Include God in your family discussion.

This is not just about bible reading or family devotions, it’s more... it’s about talking about ways God is at work in your own hearts and in the world around you today. In Deuteronomy 6:7 Moses gives this instruction about the words and works of God: “You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up.”

Talking about this everyday when it’s not yet a habit may seem daunting. So pick one day a week to start – Sunday lunch, Thursday supper? Put a reminder on your calendar or in your phone. The more you do talk about our amazing God, the more you’ll want to talk about Him. Pretty soon you won’t need that reminder anymore!


Questions to Get Your Family Discussion Going:

If you’re not used to talking about these things it may feel or sound awkward at first. That’s okay! Keep at it until becomes second nature. Try these questions if you’re unsure how to start. 

1. What has God done for you today?

2. What did God help you with today?

3. Did you pray to God about anything today?

4. Did God answer your prayer in anyway?

5. What have you seen God do for someone else today?

6. What happened today that reminded you of who God is?

7. How have you seen God’s faithfulness today?

8. Did you notice anything amazing in God’s creation today?

9. How did you see God in your day today?


This will lead onto more questions, and your kids may have questions of their own and as they get older those questions will become more difficult, but we encourage you to embrace the questions and the open conversations as this helps your kids figure out their own faith and own it.


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